In the era of Facebook and Instagram, there’s so much pressure when it comes to pulling out all the stops while popping the question.
Utube videos where the bride is surprised by a flash mob, as hundreds of people sing in harmony while also performing elaborate choreography. Oh, and it’s all conveniently captured from four different camera angles and spliced together in a film that racks up millions of views and goes viral!
But all of this “high bar” setting can slowly start to set up a false notion of what romance is. So can elaborate weddings and over-the-top honeymoons.
True love isn’t a man who will race through the rain down a crowded city street to passionately embrace his wife, beseeching her to return after a lovers’ quarrel.
Real romance doesn’t come with a hefty price tag or show its affections by emptying a bank account — or worse, by going into deep debt — in order to prove its sincerity.
Undying devotion isn’t flashy, wanting others to cheer and applaud your showy efforts.
Authentic love isn’t proven by dramatic gestures, expensive rings or attention-getting tactics. Not at all.
It doesn’t claim that love is showy, but steady. It describes true love — the kind which comes from our creator or Universal mind and is in turn shown to others — by asserting that love “… bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.”
Bear: to properly place under a protective covering
Believe: to be utterly persuaded to be true
Hope: to actively wait for fulfillment
Endure: to stand your ground, bearing up against hardship
So maybe, true love looks more like this:
It’s the steadfast presence of you, the willingness to stick it out when things get rocky. To demonstrates love when no one else is looking. True love is wholly committed, costing time and effort. It gives with no expectation of recognition or return.